Online dating during the holidays
It doesn’t matter if you’re single, taken, or somewhere in between—you probably have a ton of questions.
How much should you spend on a present for your three-month friends-with-benefits?
When communicating online or by text (at any time) we may be less inhibited about what we say to others, an effect John Suler calls the "online disinhibition effect." It occurs when people say things online that perhaps they would not say in a face-to-face context (Suler, 2004).
Coupling the general Christmas disinhibition described above with the online disinhibition effect may work in our favor when pursuing online dating at this time of year, giving us or others that little extra courage we might need. A Decrease in Self-Handicapping We have all, at one time or another, decided in advance not to devote too much effort to something, just in case we fail—or made a task so difficult for ourselves that we were bound to fail.
Is it a total faux-pas to break up with her on New Year’s Eve? Being single during the holidays can be difficult, especially if all your friends are paired off (and spending time with their significant other).
Your odds are good during the winter: According to Lauren O’Reilly of Ok Cupid, people tend to end relationships going into the holidays and want to start fresh in the new year.
“Everybody starts their New Year’s resolution, and a lot of times it’s: Get online or go out more, proactive stuff to really meet somebody,” said Jess Mc Cann, author of “You Lost Him at Hello: From Dating to ‘I Do’ — Secrets from One of America’s Top Dating Coaches.” Pressure from family members during the holidays or wishing they had someone to spend the holidays with encourages people.
He told the Guardian: 'Christmas tends to be a period of review and revision, partly because it gives you the chance to observe existing models of relationship – the ones that you have, the ones you want to avoid and the ones you want to emulate.'It is also the winter pause when you review what has been missing in your life and what you want in it, and a period of great loneliness for people who don't fit into the government-approved vision of family.
According to You Gov, one in five relationships in the UK now begins online, and meeting via the internet is the third most popular way to find a date behind 'through friends' or making acquaintance at a pub or bar.